tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post6312612637781317333..comments2023-08-08T11:05:20.803-04:00Comments on Pages From My Notebook: Interracial Datingbrohammashttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14916793129032434035noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-25461747208280912502012-05-12T07:43:40.076-04:002012-05-12T07:43:40.076-04:00Interracial dating is dating and happy hormone buz...Interracial dating is dating and happy hormone buzz. It's really up to the couple to be self confident enough to <br />see beyond and racial line and realize they're are in love if they really are.<a href="http://www.interracial-dating-1.com" rel="nofollow">Interracial Dating</a> is a great resource <br />for all races looking for new loves.Huehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10141913555292332231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-9387542307481859222010-07-09T21:25:37.014-04:002010-07-09T21:25:37.014-04:00Evasion and deception are white values? Are you se...Evasion and deception are white values? Are you serious?<br /><br />To say white people are more evasive and deceptive would be wrong, but a possibly understandable missconception, but to say it a value held by whites shows you don't know what you are talking about and display yourself as an example of how far race relations have to go.brohammashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14916793129032434035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-18104008157254182982010-07-09T18:01:00.056-04:002010-07-09T18:01:00.056-04:00BIG CLUE: non- or anti- assimilated women of any c...BIG CLUE: non- or anti- assimilated women of any color DON'T PLAY GAMES. Ask her out or don't. DONE. This applies to everything, not just dating. Evasion & deception are white social values, as far as the US is concerned. -americans don't really do that crap.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-21575611347077844462009-10-03T17:22:41.996-04:002009-10-03T17:22:41.996-04:00In response to Soila, While it is true about black...In response to Soila, While it is true about black women's looks being judged according to white standards. However, I've heard some white men say they like the Gabrielle Union, Kerry Washington types. At the same time, alot of white men don't even know who these women are since they aren't A-list like Beyonce or Halle. <br /><br />I think America has an issue with an attractive dark women. They only feel comfortable with the mammy type (Oprah, Queen Latifah) or the very light skinned black women (Beyonce, Alicia Keys). My friend once brought up the question, "If Oprah looked like Jessica White or Kerry Washington, would middle/upper class white women still be interested in her show?" I said no. I think it would mess with their upbringing that they are more beautiful solely based on their whiteness.OneBrownSnowPeanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-63829267795131533902009-09-27T09:20:33.022-04:002009-09-27T09:20:33.022-04:00I just want to say I am a black woman married to a...I just want to say I am a black woman married to a white man and I am not what you would call "hot". I am dark skinned with natural hair, people often question why my husband is with me or assume my husband must be a "black acting" white man. I have been approached predominantly by white men, but that is because I have always lived in predominantly white areas. I will say I caused controversy when I went with a white guy to prom in 1994. No one could understand how he could like me, especially when there were plenty of white girls with more standard beauty ideals than dark old me.<br /><br />I guess I am saying is you don't always have to be a supermodel to get a white guy.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09887279569489057828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-51417086732597320072009-09-16T05:12:42.463-04:002009-09-16T05:12:42.463-04:00Great post! I wrote about it on my blog:
http://a...Great post! I wrote about it on my blog:<br /><br />http://abagond.wordpress.com/2009/09/16/why-so-few-white-men-marry-black-women-part-iii/Julian Abagondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05297363978280433722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-61785806864910878382009-08-22T17:10:38.132-04:002009-08-22T17:10:38.132-04:00Actually - from the people I know and the limited ...Actually - from the people I know and the limited experience I've had - in many European countries racial problems are couched in nationalist terms and are much tougher to deal with than here in America.Lyrichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01341146111158826868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-72932988298944228292009-08-17T21:07:34.427-04:002009-08-17T21:07:34.427-04:00Western (Mainstream) Beauty standards are based on...Western (Mainstream) Beauty standards are based on Caucasoid looks. This is the same medium used to gauge/rate BW's looks. Even for WM who date BW, if you asked what BW they found attractive, you'll hear the list of the Beyonce's and the Halle Berry's. The "diluted" African (Caucasian features) look seems to be the only acceptable/ preferred look by a majority of WM who'd consider dating BW. You hardly ever hear Alek Wek being the "HOT" preferred look. <br /><br />There's absolutely nothing wrong with the Halle Berry/ Beyonce look but, this may be another reason that most WM in America don't date/marry BW. A majority of us look nothing like Halle/Beyonce and are just too "African" looking for the liking of some (most)... <br /><br />Ok, I'll stop now. Enough said.SOILA.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10259249115988464079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-78467232895307753622009-08-17T20:08:43.910-04:002009-08-17T20:08:43.910-04:00I'm not saying that other countries do not hav...I'm not saying that other countries do not have their own issues. I'm sure there are bigots or just men who BW aren't their cup of tea everywhere in the world but, WM in the US seem to have much more "issues" than WM in other places. I would totally get it if one just wasn't attracted/interested in BW but I cant begin to tell you how many times I have heard "family/friends" is the reason why a WM wouldn't pursue a BW who he may be interested in. I cant get my head to understand such people.<br /><br />The fear of loss of power, position and privileges by some American WM who may be interested in BW is just beyond me. Dating, loving and being with someone shouldn't be this big of a deal. People should be able to be with whoever they please without all the unnecessary pressure, hypocrisy and crap that seems to be the order of day here. <br /><br />Let me just add that, some of the men who are sooo afraid of daddy (family) and want to please their friends are the ones you'll see chasing after 20 yr old Black girls when they are 50 and daddy is six feet under and their friends views are not that important anymore. It's bloody disgusting.SOILA.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10259249115988464079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-22301362460335780492009-08-17T19:31:03.573-04:002009-08-17T19:31:03.573-04:00Soila, this is a place where rambling on is encour...Soila, this is a place where rambling on is encouraged. I would love conversing, so bring it on.<br />You are right about this being an American issue. We are the ones with Jim Crow in our history. That being said, other countries have their own issue. I have heard horror stories about a friend trying to date a gypsy (sp?) in Hungary.<br /><br />Corbie and Lyric, I live to make you laugh... yes, I am a clown.brohammashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14916793129032434035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-52368932837175109562009-08-17T19:21:47.452-04:002009-08-17T19:21:47.452-04:00Understood even though I think this whole WM don&#...Understood even though I think this whole WM don't date BW is specific to the US. Not so much of a big deal in other countries. It still boils down to race and relations in America and whether admitted or not, racial groups here carry waaay too much baggage and pre-conceived notions against each other. This is stuff that most of other countries seem to have gotten over and the whole "My family/friends wont be accepting of my spouse because she's black" doesn't come into play when WM decide to date/marry BW. It's not a big deal though. <br /><br />RE: Dating being a nightmare: I think this happens mostly when one is actively pursuing something and it doesn't work out as they'd have liked it to. There things in life that I feel are best left to work themselves out such as dating/marriage. From observation, seems to me like this always works itself out best when left to take it's own course. <br /><br />Sorry for rambling on.SOILA.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10259249115988464079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-77310715729342517242009-08-17T05:47:32.765-04:002009-08-17T05:47:32.765-04:00I don't even know where to jump in here but I ...I don't even know where to jump in here but I will say two things: A) Men suck and B) Your last comment there about the lottery made me laugh.Corbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09398238202579667140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-36571860490025726752009-08-16T20:49:18.935-04:002009-08-16T20:49:18.935-04:00laughing.
and also thinking if something happened...laughing. <br />and also thinking if something happened to my Mr. Wonderful I'd be happier not even trying to get into the dating game. Almost 20 yrs of marriage and I still have nightmares on a regular basis that are about dating.Lyrichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01341146111158826868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-50504542879171210332009-08-16T17:51:32.255-04:002009-08-16T17:51:32.255-04:00Let me just add that I am SO SUPER GLAD that I am ...Let me just add that I am SO SUPER GLAD that I am NOT in the dating game anymore!!! Also, your wife is totally hot and well worth the risk. Thanks for bringing her to the Montgomery side of life. loves.<br />linzLindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12413442199982439199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-80687212196031173562009-08-14T22:28:52.158-04:002009-08-14T22:28:52.158-04:00SOILA, Hey, I didn't say it was cool, I just s...SOILA, Hey, I didn't say it was cool, I just said thats how it is... or was. I haven't been in the dating scene for about ten years now. I see WAAAAY more WM/BW couples out on the street than I used too.<br />but...<br />Remember, we (white men) have always been taught black people hate us, which would mean black woman hate us. If that is what you assume than why would you try? That is where the guy only takes the risk for a super hot BW. Its like playing the lottery... you know you arent going to win, but if the pot gets up to like $400million, people will buy a ticket because if somehow you do win... WOW!<br />so, a white guy asking out a black girl is like playing the lottery. White guys assume they can't win, but if she is hot enough you gotta try. Odds are you get shot down but if somehow you win... WOW!brohammashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14916793129032434035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-72937868264212396232009-08-14T18:18:54.125-04:002009-08-14T18:18:54.125-04:00"If he has other options the easy way out wou...<b>"If he has other options the easy way out would be to go there, or, this must be an Alpha male indeed who is looking to prove something, or, this black girl must be unusually HOT and worth the risk."</b><br /><br />So, what I gathered is that the general assumption that WM do NOT date BW is right seeing as, for a "normal" WM to date a BW she has to be unusually "HOT" and worth the risk. Scuzz ball going after Shaniqua, Becky and Ming Lee doesn't count as he is, well, a Scuzz ball and I'm sure "normal" BW wouldn't want. The "friend" who is normally a "normal" non-macho dude will also be going for the unusually "HOT" and worth the risk BW if he ever even does. Hmmm!SOILA.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10259249115988464079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-83924162391336095302009-08-13T19:14:40.981-04:002009-08-13T19:14:40.981-04:00Lyric,
Sure I may be a little weird nut notice I d...Lyric,<br />Sure I may be a little weird nut notice I did not say "friend' guys werent capable of being friends. They can be friends and still lurk... notice you said this was the type of guy you end up marrying... EXACTLY! See, they lurk as long as needed till you come around. Thank you for helping me prove my point.brohammashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14916793129032434035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-24598665929899862752009-08-13T17:42:39.128-04:002009-08-13T17:42:39.128-04:00If I were single, I would resign myself to permane...If I were single, I would resign myself to permanent spinsterhood after reading this. Wow, what a dating game!Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14668701748069530341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-80093921578072756302009-08-13T17:10:55.821-04:002009-08-13T17:10:55.821-04:00the "friend" guy - in my experience - wa...the "friend" guy - in my experience - was just a guy comfortable around the girls. Or maybe just comfortable with me - and maybe that was just because I was perhaps more "one of the guys" than a regular girl.<br />Oh I don't know. But the guys I hung around that were capable of being a friend were the ones I admired and respected and ended up marrying.<br /><br />I think you're a little weird about guys that can be friends with girls.<br /><br />And funny - most of the IR couples the I know are WM/BW. Although I see a whole lot everything around here. Nice to see. In the generation younger than me. Gives me hope.Lyrichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01341146111158826868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-39972723138083549922009-08-13T13:09:43.737-04:002009-08-13T13:09:43.737-04:00Did you hear the report on NPR about interracial d...Did you hear the report on NPR about interracial dating? <br /><br />http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=111781484Amanda Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05585402236984731784noreply@blogger.com