tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post5828317510019784228..comments2023-08-08T11:05:20.803-04:00Comments on Pages From My Notebook: It takes a big person to open upbrohammashttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14916793129032434035noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-74930813794584431462009-04-26T18:58:00.000-04:002009-04-26T18:58:00.000-04:00Wow, I must admit that this is the first time that...Wow, I must admit that this is the first time that I've ever thought about whether or not I judge ppl by their racial group, as opposed to the individual. I do my best to not judge ppl by their race, because it's been done so often to me. I once wrote about how at my school, I often felt like ppl treated me as if I was "black until proven otherwise." I definitely agree that it takes conscious effort to stop this kind of judgment, and hopefully we can encourage this kind of open talk with our peers.Uchehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10121231909401347838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-29158435886909942322009-04-26T17:14:00.000-04:002009-04-26T17:14:00.000-04:00I just nominated you for an award.
Check it out h...I just nominated you for an award.<br /><br />Check it out <A HREF="http://siditty.blogspot.com/2009/04/rippa-and-professor-tracy-have-both.html" REL="nofollow">here</A>.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09887279569489057828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-89702042691713033662009-04-23T00:44:00.000-04:002009-04-23T00:44:00.000-04:00I've caught myself painting another race or ethnic...I've caught myself painting another race or ethnicity with a broad brush many times in the past and everytime I had to reform my thinking and correct myself by saying "No, it's he/she that is *insert negative/positive attribute here* scumbag, not "they" who are *insert negative/positive stereotype here*. Seeing another group to which one does not belong, as the "other" is a human trait. We have all been guilty of it at one time or another.Mr. Nofacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07164229381294354588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-2663745740338610402009-04-22T23:25:00.000-04:002009-04-22T23:25:00.000-04:00I tend to agree that out of inexperience and intel...I tend to agree that out of inexperience and intellectual laziness it is easier to just take isolated experiences and apply them to the group. I try very hard not to judge anything or anybody by an unrelated experience. <br /><br />That said, all the negative experiences I have ever had in my life were committed by people of my race. I don't know if I agree with the familiarity with our own race makes us more forgiving argument. I don't trust someone I don't know well regardless of the race. I treat unfamiliar people like an approaching storm - wondering if they will merely pass by and grabbing my umbrella in case they don't.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17587705075919282650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-40675218090150230412009-04-22T22:18:00.000-04:002009-04-22T22:18:00.000-04:00I am always checking myself to make sure I don't j...I am always checking myself to make sure I don't judge people based soley on race. It happens sometimes and I hate it when it does happen.I think it has to do with conditioning. Not necessarily from your parents,because my parents never taught me that this is white, black or hispanic behavior. Once you go outside the home even at a very young age, you can pick up on those attitudes and behaviors from people you hand out with and it has always made me uncomfortable. It has never felt right to me to be suspicious or racist because a person was different from me. I just keep trying to be fair in my thinking and behavior and just treat people the way I want to be treated. It makes life a little easier.<br /><br /><br />SanaaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-39841323760924473282009-04-22T21:04:00.000-04:002009-04-22T21:04:00.000-04:00I was thinking of doing a similar post. I wonder i...I was thinking of doing a similar post. I wonder if as human beings we subconsciously get turned off people, places, items etc etc due to one bad experience that we may have had. <br /><br />I've had people question the race preference I have for the guys I date. Some have concluded that because I gravitate to guys of that particular race, I must have something against the other races (as far as guys and dating). I had a nasty rape experience 6 years back and I have friends that try to reason that that experience turned me off the men of race that guy was from and that’s why I don’t date from said race. I don’t believe that to be true because I had my preference before the incident and, I have continued to have men of that race in my life even though not in the dating/romantic relationship sense. The rationale of my friend’s argument about my preference has led me to believe that as human beings, life experiences can indeed make us fearful of groups of people based on one bad experience with someone from said groups. <br /><br />I think it takes a conscious decision to move past that fear and not to generalize members of the entire group. This is especially when it becomes important to treat and judge people as individuals. No one person is a representative of their family, clan, village, city, country, continent, religion or even race. <br /><br />*Sorry for the haphazard long rant*SOILA.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10259249115988464079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-87555165493805694692009-04-22T18:37:00.000-04:002009-04-22T18:37:00.000-04:00Yeah, this is common in ALL perceived races.
I thi...Yeah, this is common in ALL perceived races.<br />I think that most racist people simply just don't know enough people to balance their perspective.<br /><br />(ESPN says that the Utah teams should be pretty good this year)uglyblackjohnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14404995571276457138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6853635643486173008.post-11413712643558156062009-04-22T14:49:00.000-04:002009-04-22T14:49:00.000-04:00You hit it on the head when you described how we d...You hit it on the head when you described how we don't do this with our own race because it would mean blaming our own family, friends, etc. - the fact is that we <EM>know</EM> these people and we <EM>know</EM> that they aren't all bad. But, since we spend little time with 'other' people, we aren't as inclined to give them the same benefit of the doubt. I think, as has often been said, the trick is to spend more time with other races so we have a good frame of reference to fall back on when members of that race make poor decisions. <br /><br />There is a book by Pema Chodron called 'When Things Fall Apart' and it talks a lot about how, when painful things happen to us, it is actually in our best interest to move <EM>toward</EM> the object of the pain, rather than away from it. Anyhow, this story reminded me of that book.Corbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09398238202579667140noreply@blogger.com